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Summer fun

So where were we? Here and there… And here are some updates of what’s been going on lately…

Age – already 1 year and 7 months! Time flies!

The girls are learning a lot. Every day they surprise us with new stuff they know. And they understand everything. It’s amazing! However they are still not talking (except for a few words here and there, but nothing too much).

They were both sick several times lately. It is strange how often they get sick considering the fact they are not yet in preschool… I don’t know what we’ll do when they go to preschool at the end of August!

They are both really funny about their names:

  • Maya is very consistent. For a while she decided her name is “Tamen”, and she insisted on it. I could ask her 100 times “Maya, what’s your name?” and she would always answer “Tamen”. Now she changed the version a bit and she either says “Tamai” or “Kamai”. Where does she get this from? I must say that sometimes she also calls herself Yama-Yama which is pretty close in a cute way ;)
  • Noa on the other hand invents a new name for herself every time, and very complex names. I can’t even remember how they sound, but it’s strange.

Lately we’ve started going to the beach, and it is really fun. Maya and Noa seem to like it a lot. And so do we. Here’s a picture to demonstrate how fun it is:


We also took Noa and Maya to the Gay Parade in Tel Aviv (June 8th 2012). It was really nice – music, happy people… But we didn’t stay too long. It was too difficult carrying them all the time. We should have brought the stroller! Well, next year… Here’s a cool pic of us:

And last thing… Here’s a clip I made for Ronen’s birthday about a month ago… Hope you like it… and have a great weekend!

p.s. You’re more than welcome to follow me on Instagram @ronchick7 .
Just saying :)



Days 14-18

Nov. 6-10

We’re not alone here anymore. 2 new couples arrived this week.

First, Izik and Eyal arrived. Their twins were born a bit early and they are now in N.I.C.U. Finally we had more people to play ping-pong with, to share a table at dinner and breakfast… It’s nice.

Yesterday, Orly and Ronen arrived. We’ve met them before at Alon’s appartment when Alon and Doron briefed us about India.

So now we have a table for 6.

We’re still working, and still waiting. Unfortunately, my computer died last weekend. We tried to fix it but it seems that the motherboard is dead and and the IBM lab is on the other side of Mumbai…

Yesterday we finished week 36. This is very exciting, and this means the delivery can be any day now. We’re counting on tomorrow since it will be a cool date (11.11). Friday will also be nice (12.11.1o) but whenever they arrive will be good! :)

In the meantime we’re watching TV and I’m already addicted to MasterChef Australia :) there are also a lot of reruns of Friends, and Modern Family which we always like to watch. They have so many reruns here… Only today they shower Catwoman TWICE! and every day there are 3 reruns of every show… You can’t miss it :)

Anyhow, sorry for not writing as often as usual but the fact that nothing much is going on combined with the fact that my comp died makes it difficult. You’ll forgive me I hope…

Kisses and good night. And please don’t call us after 20:30 IL time! (last night we got a call at 1:22am and were sure it’s time to go to the hospital…)


They are showing Aladdin on Saturday, so I just felt like it :)

Mumbai – Days 4-6

Day 4 – Wednesday, Oct. 27

We started the day with breakfast downstairs, and as usual I did not eat much. Then we went back to the room to work. Now, with your permission I’ll stop writing this, because as you probably understood by now, we work every day, Sunday to Thursday… So I’ll just tell you the rest :)

In the evening we took a tuk-tuk to Hiranandani, a nicer area with malls, restaurants etc. We read that there should be a Mothercare store there and wanted to check it out. We also wanted to change money. When we arrived, we saw a change place, but turns out we need a passport to change money, and also they do not change after 6pm. So we went on.

Now, what are the chances that a doctor (or was she just an assistant?) from the hospital we visited 2 days ago would see me in the street and recognize me?! So Akanksha saw me and called me. It was very funny. We talked for a little while, and then we went to look for the MotherCare store that we heard was in the area. Turns out the store closed and moved to a different location. So we went back to the mall and had coffee at Costa. And also a muffin…

StreetShowStreet show in Powai

Day 5 – Thursday, Oct. 28

Doron urged us to go check out the Hiranandani Hospital where the dilivery should take place. We went there to see the place. At first I had the feeling like we were sneaking around, but when we got to second floor where the labor rooms are we met a nurse that was happy to show us where the N.I.C.U. was. In the N.I.C.U. we met another nurse who explained a bit and was very patient and informative. We learned that we might need to stay a few nights at the hospital after the birth just to see the babies are all right. We went up and looked at some rooms, and I must say it was kind of relieving to realize that we’ll be there and there will be nurses outside our door to help if anything goes wrong…
From there we went back to Hiranandani, changed money, got Ronen a cover for the BlackBerry and bought water.
Oh! And back at the hotel we watched Smallville, and Lois finally made Clark tell her his secret! Yay! :)

Tuktuk ride

Day 6 – Friday, Oct. 29

TGIF! Today was an exciting day. We went to see Neeta – our surrogate for the first time, and do a sonography. We met Rajesh (Doron’s driver) at 10:30 and went to Minakshi’s clinic (she’s the doctor taking care of Neeta). We met Minakshi at her office and heard a bit about Neeta and the pregnancy. We then met Neeta and went to another clinic to do the sonography. Neeta was very shy and did not communicate much (regardless the fact that she doesn’t speak English…).
The sonography was very exciting. We got to see the ultrasound of the babies, and realized they were there, right in front of us, with their little hearts beating. One of them was swallowing water and it was so cute! We were told that it’s best if we waited at least another week or two, and that this will be a C-section.
After the test we dropped Neeta off at Minakshi’s again, and went to the mall (what is there for us to do on Friday if not hang out at the mall :) ). It was very boring and after a while we went back to the hotel. We went down to the pool for a little while, and then watched a movie in the room.
One thing I forgot to mention is that we have a game room in the hotel, where there’s a a snooker table and a ping-pong table. We’ve been playing ping-pong almost every day since we arrived, and it is very fun! So after dinner we went to play again, and one of the hotel guys – Madhukar – was there watching us. At some point I offered him to play instead of me and he was happy to join the game against Ronen. Turns out he’s a very good player, but Ronen gave a good fight.
Then, like good Israelis we complained again about the noise the AC was making, and they transferred us to room 708 which is a bit bigger, so it’s nice.
To finish the day we went to the bar at the next door Ramada hotel (5 stars). The bar was empty, but we had a nice Fisher King beer and watched a tv shows featuring 2 bimbos travelling in Thailand.
And now it’s time to say good night…

I know that the posts are becoming quite technical, but as you know, we’re basically sitting here waiting…

And I’ll leave you with this… Just for fun :)

Two hearts are beating together…

So as I said, we kept on trying. After a while, Doron came with a new suggestion of using a South African egg donor instead of an American one. We’ve decided to give this a try. What I did not mention till now was the process of choosing a donor. Every time we had to pick a new donor we had to go through profiles consisting of pictures and a written profile containing the donor’s history, hobbies, health details etc. (about 10 pages). It was very hard deciding on a new donor each time.

Another change was the fact that Doron started working with a new clinic in India. The first clinic showed very poor success rates, and he hoped that the rates will be better now. And we were among the first couples to return embryos in the new clinic.

We were scheduled for March 18th 2010. Once again, the tension was high, and we waited for the results of the beta tests. When the results came positive, we decided we will not keep our hopes too high just yet. After all we’ve been in this stage once before and eventually it did not work. Now waiting becomes the most difficult thing in the world.  The fetal heartbeat check was scheduled for week 8. We were very stressed all week waiting to hear the results. I remember I was home when Doron called me. I picked up the phone and prepared myself for the worst. After a short small talk, he said that the test was performed. He said that they were able to detect the fetus’s heartbeat. And also his brother’s heartbeat. Of course at that time there was no way to know the sex of the fetuses… I was a bit in shock. It was so exciting! We did it. At that moment I did not really digest the fact that we’re talking about 2 babies! Twins! I was just overwhelmed that we got this far. Doron asked me how I felt about this, and I replied that I was very happy. And I was!

And in some way I think that this was the day my life changed…

If at first you don’t succeed…

In March 2008 we met Doron from the agency to hear about the surrogacy plans he offers. At the time he offered 3 options:

  1. West – using an American egg donor and an American surrogate.
  2. East – using an Indian egg donor and an Indian surrogate.
  3. East-West – using an American egg donor, creating embryos, and flying them to India to use an Indian surrogate.

The costs were pretty high and we wanted to find a cheaper way of doing this, so we suggested using Israeli donors, flying them to India where they will donate the eggs, and using an Indian surrogate.

I will not bore you with the several girls we screened, wanted to send to India, some had a change of heart at the last minute, some were not suitable, and some went and donated (it’s funny to call it “donation” considering the high cost they are charging… Not that I do not appreciate their efforts and sacrifice). The number of eggs harvested was very low and we were unsuccessful with the retrieval of the embryos. No pregnancy yet.

After several months we decided it’s time to go back to the East-West program. Maybe we’ll have better luck there. However, our chain of bad luck did not end there… Our first donation in the US was again unsuccessful since the donor forgot to take a shot and the clinic were unable to harvest the eggs. And so we kept on trying. The next cycle we got eggs and the clinic created embryos. They were flown to India and there they tried returning the embryos to a surrogate. Here also we experienced some disappointments.

In the beginning of September 2009 Doron called and said that he got the Beta test results (hCG) which indicated we are finally pregnant! We were soooooo happy. We told our families and were very excited. Unfortunately this did not last long… The next Beta test showed a drop in the Beta levels and that meant that the pregnancy was terminated. The disappointment was huge and very painful. I was on the verge of breaking and started being skeptic regarding Doron’s ability to make us parents.

But we had to collect the shattered pieces of ourselves and go on trying…

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